Hope for Life

Life goes on

Went for several interviews recently. And most of the time when it comes to declaring your physical disability or illness, I will stopped for a while and ponder why is such a declaration necessary.
I am perfectly fine now. I am under observation and only need to see the doctor maybe 4-5 times a year. I work like a normal person, so I dunno if I should declare something that is not going to affect my job performance and yet affect my chances of employment.

Some friends tell me, you should declare, it's integrity issue. But trust me, when you are in the same situation as me, you will be facing the same dilemma. The medical bills + normal living expenses + etc stuff that needs money. Without a job, how do we pay for all that? But if you declare your condition, you are jeopardizing your chances at the job. Is it worth it? Integrity? Integrity cannot generate income for me. Neither will "integrity" has a place in people's "discriminating views".

A friend told me that his friend once interviewed a guy that look completely normal. Then the guy declare that he is half deaf, and he rejected his application. And then, he met up with another lady applicant, whom he was very keen to hire. She told that guy that she is half blind because of a traffic accident. The guy wanted to hire her still and asked the HR office if she would be able to pass the medical examination like this. The HR cannot give a definite answer at all. In the end, the lady didn't come over to work as she was afraid she might never find a job again if she quit her current job....where no one even realised she is half blind.

You see? We are perfectly normal when it comes to work. But when you declare, people starts to doubt your abilities. This whole declaration is really quite unfair to many people with chronic conditions that don't affect their normal life. Same thing with declaring you are a homosexual. It is as if your sexuality will affect your brain cells to make you more stupid in your work.
So I also really dislike people asking if I have a boyfriend. I dun wanna lie, but I dunno how to answer either.

All I want is just a simple life, a career, and a family. Please don't destroy that for me with your discriminations OR your sympathetic views on me.

posted by Fay @ 8:12 AM